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Dealing with mental / emotional problems
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When we have problems with other people, or with our circumstances in life, we can get away from them at times. Even when we have problems with our physical bodies, we can usually compensate so they don’t always interfere with our happiness. But when the problem is inside our heads – whether it’s a mood that won’t lift, an addiction, a pervading sense of insecurity or fear or worthlessness, a serious depression, or some other mental illness – it touches us practically every moment of every day, and colors everything we try to do.
It can be nearly as bad for us if the problem is not ours, but belongs to a spouse, a child, or another person we live with or are close to.
Fortunately, most mental and emotional problems can be treated successfully – sometimes cured, sometimes improved or managed with appropriate drugs or other therapeutic methods.
If you or someone you know has a persistent mental or emotional condition, seek professional help. It can be much more affordable than you may think, and is covered by most health insurance plans. And while some of us are afraid that we will be looked down on for getting help of this kind, the opposite is the case: your family and friends already know you have a problem, and they will be pleased for your sake and for theirs that you are doing something about it.
Mental Health America is a reliable go-to resource for many of the issues discussed below, and others. A good place for general information, and for finding specific sources of help.
Dealing with mental / emotional problems relates to other areas of Health:
- Maintaining physical health, because it is hard to muster the discipline to maintain patterns of behavior that support our physical health when we are suffering from mental / emotional problems. And because that discipline, when we do manifest it, helps to reduce the frequency and/or severity of mental and emotional problems.
- Dealing with physical problems, because problems of a psychological nature can induce or aggravate physical problems, and vice versa.
- Maintaining mental / emotional health, because we need a realistic assessment of ourselves just to identify the problems that should be addressed. Because taking steps to maintain our mental well-being (especially at times when life is not overly stressful already) can help us minimize future problems. And because dealing effectively with mental and emotional problems can teach us what we need to do to help us avoid them in the future.
Dealing with mental / emotional problems relates to other areas besides Health:
- Spirit, because mental and emotional problems undermine our beliefs, principles, and values, or at least our ability to live up to them.
- Purpose, because it is difficult to focus on purposeful activity when we are suffering internally.
- Love, because our unresolved problems, or those of loved ones, often damage or even destroy relationships.
- Avocation, because even fun is no fun when mental or emotional problems take over.
- Security, because psychological issues that are not dealt with impair our effectiveness and our judgment, which often leads sufferers into financial disaster.
Dealing with mental / emotional problems Sub-Topics and Resources
Sometimes we are stuck for a while for “normal” reasons. We have a major setback in our lives, someone important to us dies or suffers some other serious misfortune, we undergo stress because life really is difficult at times, or we are even stressed because so many good changes are happening at once (and then we experience a let down when they are over). Sometimes we are simply overtaken by a sad mood or a feeling of anxiety that we have trouble pinning down.
These situations are normal, and do not suggest any kind of serious mental problem. There are ways of coping with them constructively.
However, if bad feelings persist, or if mood swings start occurring for no obvious reason, these can be signs of a more serious problem (including, in the elderly, the onset of dementia), and a professional assessment is called for.
- Free resources:
- GuideToHealth.com provides some simple techniques that might help with certain bad feelings and moods (rating = A), specifically: “[Mild] Depression”, “Fears”, “Stress”, and “Insomnia”.
- “About Anxiety Disorders,” from the Senior Health section of the National Institutes of Health website, connects you with information about the risk factors, causes, treatment, and other aspects of anxiety problems (rating = A).
- “Dealing with Anger, Hatred, Guilt, Regret, etc.,” by Mark Schwartz at InnserSelf.com, is a simple but useful encouragement to jettison negative feelings that have outlived their usefulness (rating = A-).
- “Dealing With Regret? How to Let Go,” from LifeScript.com, is written for women but applies to everyone (rating = A-).
- “Effectively Dealing with Sadness,” by Mary Maddux at Ezine.com, suggest some simple remedies, and advises when you should seek professional help (rating = A-).
- “Holiday Blues and Seniors,” by Marian Anne Eure for About.com, offers tips on dealing with sadness at the holidays (rating = A-).
- “Dealing with Dementia Mood Swings,” at AgingCare.com, links you to information about dealing with Alzheimer's outbursts (rating = A-).
- Other resources:
- See also:
- SPIRIT / Your Beliefs and Principles / Applying your beliefs, for information on how to change yourself.
- SPIRIT / The Meaning of Life / Maintaining focus through life changes, for information about stress.
- SPIRIT / Dealing with Aging (all sections).
- SPIRIT / Dealing with Death / Coping with death and dying, for help with grief.
- SPIRIT / Spiritual practices (all sections), for information about the comforts of meditation, prayer, and ritual.
- PURPOSE / Getting Started with Purposeful Activity / Understanding your own natural approach to Purpose, for information on how to become a more optimistic person.
- LOVE / The Essential Virtues / Forgiveness.
- LOVE / Family (all sections), for dealing with problems related to family situations.
- LOVE / Friendship / Positive ways to nurture friendships.
- LOVE / Caregiving / Understanding caregiving options, for applying mental / emotional health care to others.
- LOVE / Caregiving / Caregiving at home, for applying mental / emotional health care to others.
- SECURITY / Managing Risk / The risk of illness or incapacity.
- AVOCATION (all sections), for activities that might bring new pleasure or new friendships into your life.
- HEALTH / Maintaining mental and emotional health / Assessing your mental and emotional health, for information on psychological testing and how to find a professional therapist.
- HEALTH / Maintaining mental and emotional health / Positive attitudes, for help finding happiness.
A variety of crisis issues are dealt with elsewhere in these Retirement Readiness pages – refer to the “See also” links, below. A few are not covered elsewhere, and so are included here: midlife crisis, adjustment to retirement, and situational depression (depression caused by external events). This general category is technically known by psychologists as “adjustment disorders” – which may be mild and temporary, or serious and the beginning of something worse.
- Free resources:
- “Adjustment Disorders,” by the Mayo Clinic, discusses symptoms, causes, risk factors, testing, treatment, home remedies and prevention (rating = A).
- “MidLife Crisis,” by Dan Fielder at MaleHealth.com, is a very good overview of this phenomenon, where it comes from and what to do about it (rating = A).
- “Midlife Crisis: Transition or Depression?” by Kathleen Doheny at WebMD, focuses on what to do when a midlife crisis begins to turn into a legitimate depression (rating = A).
- “Retirement – Avoid the New Retiree Blues,” by John P. Strelecky at SeniorMag.com addresses the main steps to take to fend off a depressive reaction to retirement (rating = A-).
- “Identity Theft: 5 Ways For Career Women To Deal With The Loss Of Their Professional Identity In Retirement,” by Evelyn Kalinosky, is good advice for men as well (rating = A-).
- “Depression in the Elderly,” at psycom.net, is a little out of date, but links to a wide variety of useful articles and studies on this topic (rating = A-).
- Other resources:
- Listening to Midlife, by Mark Gerzon, talks about how to turn the midlife crisis into a midlife quest (rating = A).
- How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club, by Gay Courter and Pat Gaudette, offers stories, advice, resources, and a bit of humor (rating = A-).
- Revitalizing Retirement: Reshaping Your Identity, Relationships, and Purpose, by Nancy K. Schlossberg, is a highly insightful and helpful book about passing through the retirement transition (rating = A+).
- Living Longer Depression Free: A Family Guide to Recognizing, Treating, and Preventing Depression in Later Life, by doctors Mark D. Miller and Charles F. Reynolds III, deals with depression of all kinds in the elderly.
- See also:
- Free resources:
- The “Quit Smoking,” page from the American Heart Association, covers all the bases (rating = A).
- “Alcohol Use and Older Adults” from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, is a good place to begin learning about alcohol and aging, the effects of alcohol, and how to get help (rating = A); and, of course, Alcoholics Anonymous (rating = A).
- “Drug Addiction,” from the Mayo Clinic, discusses symptoms, causes, risk factors, testing, treatment, home remedies, and prevention (rating = A).
- “Prescription Drug Abuse,” from MedLine, sponsored by the U.S. National Library of Medicine, offers an overview and links to detailed articles and other resources (rating = A).
- Other resources:
- Addiction & Recovery for Dummies, by Brian F. Shaw, Paul Ritvo, and Jane Irvine, offers a solid approach to identifying and overcoming all kinds of addictions (rating = A).
- Willpower's Not Enough: Recovering from Addictions of Every Kind, by Arnold M. Washton and Donna Boundy, talks about changing one’s lifestyle as being the key to overcoming addiction (rating = A).
- The Easy Way to Stop Smoking, by Allen Carr, is a highly popular (and apparently effective) help for people trying to quit (rating = A+).
- Enough Already! A Guide to Recovery from Alcohol and Drug Addiction, by Bob Tyler, is a very good primer on 12-step programs and how to avoid relapse (rating = A).
- Overcoming Prescription Drug Addiction: A Guide to Coping and Understanding, by Rod Colvin, addresses the hows and whys of prescription drug addiction, as well as treatment options (rating = A).
- See also:
Personality disorders are conditions that are more persistent than moods or reactions to events in your life, but are generally not as debilitating as the illnesses in the following section. Still, they can make life very hard for people who suffer from them and/or others who have to live with them.
- Free resources:
- The “Personality Disorders” page at MedlinePlus (rating = A+) offers information about the nature, causes, and treatment of conditions such as antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, schizoid, and schizotypal personality disorders (rating = A+). It also links to the Mayo Clinic site listed below and the National Institutes of Health.
- “Introduction to Personality Disorders” at MentalHealth.net connects to blog entries and Q&As that deal with more specific issues and manifestations (plus you can post your own questions), and also links to associations, book reviews and videos relating to various personality disorders (rating = A).
- The Mayo Clinic’s “Personality Disorders” page discusses the issue in general terms, and links to more specifics about borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder (rating = A).
- For even more information on specific conditions, check out the “National Mental Health Consumer’s Self-Help Clearinghouse” (rating = A+).
- Other resources:
- Say Goodbye to Your PDI (Personality Disordered Individuals): Recognize People Who Make You Miserable and Eliminate Them from Your Life for Good! by Stan Kapuchinski, offers a radical solution, but also coping mechanisms for dealing with people we can’t eliminate from our lives, and help in identifying what the underlying problems are (rating = A).
- The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD, by Alexander L. Chapman and Kim L. Gratz, a very good book about people with this condition (characterized by impulsive actions, unstable moods, and chaotic relationships – rating = A).
- Why Is It Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism, by Sandy Hotchkiss, helps you to identify different types of narcissism and to cope with them (rating = A).
- The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, by Bruce M. Hyman and Cherry Pedrick, is one of several well-received books dealing with this disorder (rating = A).
- Belief Systems and Your Personal Power, by Alice Vieira, explains how our personal issues often stem from deep-seated beliefs about ourselves, held consciously or unconsciously. She discusses ways in which you can identify these beliefs and their consequences, and deal with them constructively (rating = A).
- See also:
- Free resources:
- “Dementia,” from MedlinePlus (a National Institutes of Health website) provides copious information and links regarding Alzheimer’s and other less well-known forms of senility (rating = A+). See also, the “Alzheimer’s Association” website (rating = A+).
- The “National Alliance on Mental Illness” website provides information and support, including links to local chapters, of which there are hundreds (rating = A+).
- “Psych Central” offers information on all the major (as well as the lesser) mental illnesses (rating = A).
- “Mental Illness and the Family: Recognizing Warning Signs and How to Cope,” at Mental Health America, helps you identify problems in yourself and others, and directs you to sources of further help (rating = A).
- “What a Difference a Friend Makes,” a site sponsored by the U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, connects you with other people with similar problems and provides other tools to help with the recovery process (rating = A).
- Other resources:
- The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People with Alzheimer Disease, Other Dementias, and Memory Loss in Later Life, by Nancy L. Mace and Peter V. Rabins (rating = A).
- The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook, by Edmund J. Bourne (rating = A).
- The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know, by David Jay Miklowitz (rating = A).
- Undoing Depression: What Therapy Doesn't Teach You and Medication Can't Give You, by Richard O'Connor (rating = A).
- Talking to Depression: Simple Ways To Connect When Someone In Your Life Is Depressed, by Claudia J. Strauss (rating = A).
- Understanding Paranoia: A Guide for Professionals, Families, and Sufferers, by Martin Kantor (rating = A).
- Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Patients, and Providers, by E. Fuller Torrey, (rating = A).
- See also:
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